On these 2 traits we build our lives
Why integrity and intentionality matter at work and at home
I've learned dozens of important lessons in my career. But two things have mattered above all else: integrity and intentionality. These form the foundations on which we build our lives.
1. Integrity - Many people think of integrity as being honest, i.e., don't lie, cheat, or steal. It certainly is that, but it encompasses much more.
Integrity is about a wholeness of self - an integrated (hence the word "integrity") identity, not one that is conditional or compartmentalized. This is the core of who you are. Your actions should match your words. Your behaviors should align with your beliefs. The things you value and care about should be consistent, regardless of the circumstance.
It is who you are in the morning and in the evening. At work and at home. When no one is looking, and when everyone is watching. When you are in the majority, and when you stand alone.
Integrity is paramount. Don't compromise your integrity for a job or short-term gain. Opportunities will come and go, but what you do against your conscience - against your very sense of self - those things will stick with you for a long time.
2. Intentionality - There are things we do because we want to. And there are things we do because we feel we "have to" - or are told that we should.
In my experience, I'm more fulfilled doing the things I choose to do. There's a sense of agency in my actions. Even if I don't succeed, I'm glad to have tried. In contrast, when I do things because it's the "default" next step - or when I follow advice I'm not sure I fully agree with - I lack the same resolve and intrinsic motivation. At times, I may even feel "stuck."
Now I'm not saying to only do what you want or what makes you happy. We all have obligations at work and at home, and we cannot shirk our day-to-day responsibilities. But for major career and life decisions, often the "default" choice - the safe choice, the choice of conventional wisdom - may not be the right choice for you.
It comes down to this: Are you building the life you want, or are you building a life others want for you?
Some people will say that you are too ambitious - or not ambitious enough. Others will say that your decision is too risky, too rash, too this, too that. They may be well-intentioned, and their advice may be sound. But they are not you. They don't know you and your priorities deeply. If you don't either, you may be pulled every which way.
But if you've taken the time to understand yourself - your values, passions, and priorities - you can be intentional in your decisions, steadfast in your integrity, and impactful in the world.