Let’s start the year talking about discernment.
Discernment is defined as “the ability to judge well” – to tell the difference between right and wrong, wise and foolish. It is to accurately perceive a person or a situation and to act in a prudent manner.
Most of us, most of the time, know the difference between right and wrong. We’re reasonable people. We can foresee the consequences of our choices and actions.
It’s not that hard to separate smart decisions from stupid ones; good investment of resources from wasteful spending; worthwhile uses of time from futile efforts. We indeed know right from wrong.
The greater challenge, as Charles Spurgeon put it, is to discern between “right and almost right.”
Remember those multiple-choice tests where you had to “pick the best answer?” Sure, two answers may both be true. But one is truer, more accurate, and more relevant to the spirit of the question.
Likewise, we may need to choose between two viable business strategies; two attractive investment opportunities; or two promising job offers. Unlike the multiple-choice tests, the stakes are much higher. Almost-right doesn’t cut it. The right investment returns 100x; the almost-right one goes to 0.
Yet nowhere is discernment more needed than in our relationships. We interact with people daily: at work, at home, and in our communities. Our words and actions leave a lasting impact. In my experience, I know when I’ve done the right thing for someone. It feels true and fulfilling. Perhaps you can relate.
So how do we treat people around us? Do we discern well whom to let into our lives? Do we choose the right friends and companions? Are we completely honest with them? Do we love fully and give our best?
There are things in life we must get right. Our relationships are one of them.